Perfection. It's been on my mind a lot the past couple of months. I was talking to a friend just yesterday about the struggle of comparison and the struggle to be perfect and how exhausting it can be. She said comparison is such a shame because you can never win. Everyone loses, and it's completely pointless. That really stuck out to me. Not to be confused with inspiration, because I think you can be inspired to become a better you by people you look up to, but when we start to compare ourselves to others, we really will never win. If we do end up reaching that goal to be like that person, we move on to the next person we want to be like that we find is more intelligent, successful, has a better body, has a captivating personality, etc. We always lose. We see someone who we look up to and think, "Wow, if I could just have it all together like they do." or, "If only I had their life. It seems perfect." without realizing they are probably thinking the exact same thing about someone else. I think we also need to be careful about comparing our real life to someone's online life. As a blogger, I know first hand what it's like to filter your life, showing only small pieces. I don't think that it's bad or deceptive to highlight the beauty in your life. I'm not one to post or share anytime Josh and I have a fight, or I get down because of an insecurity I'm battling with, or feel overwhelmed by the amount of work I have to do. Not because I want the world to think I never have any issues in my life, but because I don't want to focus on those things and want my blog to be a positive place. But I think it's easy to see people that we are inspired by on Instagram, blogs, twitter, etc. and compare our real life to their online life, which isn't a whole, complete life. Remember that the person you look up to most still has bad days, still fights with their spouse, still battle insecurities every day. I think as girls we need to kick that word perfection to the curb and start focusing on being more confident in our own skin, our own accomplishments. Taking pride in simply being you.
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